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Child Care

How do I get my child to listen?

The Lancer Answer:  Modeling is our greatest influence upon our children. The better you listen to your child and around your child the better of a listener your child will be.  We teach our kids to NOT listen by paying too little attention to them, to the point that we overlook their non-verbal cues and fail to hear them when they speak softly and politely.

Answered by: Bob Lancer

Child Care

How do I get my child to do what I want him/her to do?

The Lancer Answer: CALMLY AND CONSCIOUSLY.  The moment you begin to feel frustrated, you set yourself up for a combative response from your child.  Pay close attention to what happens as you direct your child.  If you don't like the results, instead of blaming the child for not cooperating, calmly and confidently step back and consider what your child needs right now and how you can contribute to that outcome.

Answered by: Bob Lancer

Senior Care

My Dad spends a lot of time alone and he constantly wants me to come visit. I’ve been thinking about getting him a pet – do you think this is a good idea?

Having a pet can offer a sense of well-being, encouragement and even a reason for living.  Being responsible for another life often gives new meaning to the lives of those who are living alone or who have experienced a loss.  Caring for and providing a loving home to an animal companion will also encourage your father to remain active and stay healthy.  However, I strongly suggest that you don’t surprise your father with a pet.  Instead, discuss the idea with him and see if he’s open to it, g

Answered by: Dr. Alexis Abramson

Child Care

Robin Fox

Why are open adoptions more common?

We have learned that it is in the best interest of all parties to have as few secrets as possible.  In the past, many adoptions were "closed" and sometime children were not even aware that they were adopted.  We know now that children who know as early as possible that they were adopted are emotionally more secure than those who find out later in life.

Answered by: Robin Fox

Child Care

Robin Fox

What is an open adoption?

Two terms that are usually used in adoption are "open" and "closed" but defining these are difficult and there is much variance.  An open adoption usually means that the birth family chooses the forever family.  It may also mean that the birth family and the forever family meet prior to, during or even after the child is born.  In some open adoptions the birth family and the forever family continue communication throughout the child's life.

Answered by: Robin Fox

Senior Care

My Dad has a really hard time sleeping – he says his joints and legs ache. Can you recommend something I can do to help him sleep better?

 Changes in sleeping patterns are a normal part of aging.  As people age they tend to have a harder time falling asleep and more trouble staying asleep than when they were younger.  Fortunately there are several sleep aids that can help ease your Dads leg and muscle aches and provide more comfort to help him sleep.  One of these products is called the Butterfly Leg Massage Pillow – you can get one for him online at www.target.com.  This ergonomic pillow w

Answered by: Dr. Alexis Abramson

Child Care

It is really difficult for my 8-year-old son to sit still unless he is playing with Lego’s or blocks, which he can do for really long periods of time...

 How do I get him to sit still at dinner and his teacher complains he gets out of his desk too often. Should I be concerned he is hyper active?

Answered by: Constant Hine

Child Care

My 2-½ year old son can read at 2nd grade level. He reads everything he sees, like labels, store names, etc. He will read pages to me in a book that he likes when I read to him. Do you have suggestions on what to do with a genius kid?

Your child seems to certainly have a real gift for language. First, providing books, any reading materials and vocabulary to follow his own interests would be the direction I’d suggest. Following his interests is important, especially since he is so young. 

Answered by: Constant Hine

Senior Care

Teysha Richardson

What Are Good Products For Osteoporosis?

Osteoporosis is a disorder that causes bones to become weak and brittle. Osteoporosis treatment may include weight-resistant exercise (like walking), as well as adequate calcium and vitamin D consumption. Without vitamin D, calcium cannot be absorbed, thus many over the counter agents have calcium + vitamin D. Vitamin D2 (ergocalciferol) and vitamin D3 (cholecalciferol) may be used daily or weekly to supplement vitamin D deficiencies.

Answered by: Teysha Richardson, BS, RPh, PharmD

Senior Care

Kate Zurich

How do I know if my parent/spouse/loved one is taking medicines that might be interacting with each other and causing problems like confusion, sleepiness, loss of balance, falls?

This is a question for the healthcare provider. It is also a good idea to ask the pharmacist about possible drug interactions every time a new medication is prescribed. Many pharmacists are also offering an annual medication review for patients who are on Medicare. This is a Medicare covered benefit at no charge to the patient, so be sure to ask your pharmacist about it.

Answered by: Kate Zurich

Senior Care

Kate Zurich

If your loved one, the person you are caring for, has difficulty with balance or has had a fall, what are 2 things you can do to make his/her home safer?

1) Remove all throw rugs from living area 2) Install grab bars and hand rails in frequently trafficked areas and in the bathroom

Answered by: Kate Zurich

Teen and College

Missy Sanchez CEP, LPC

When should I start looking at colleges?

Any time. Colleges and universities offer tours and information sessions at least once a day Monday-Friday and sometimes on Saturday. Students should check the college website for times and instructions for signing up. If students have not visited in 10th grade, I would encourage students and their parents to be diligent in visiting the junior year. Your goal by August 1 of the senior year is to have a short list of 4-8 colleges where the student is applying.

Answered by: Missy Sanchez CEP, LPC

Senior Care

Teysha Richardson

What Is The Best Over The Counter Item For Constipation? How Fast Will It Work?

Constipation is classified as infrequent stools, hard stools or difficulty passing stools. Increasing fiber and water intake helps encourage regular bowel movements. Laxatives are another option for constipation. Stool softeners, such as Colace® (docusate sodium) lubricates and softens fecal matter. These work within 24 to 48 hours, but they are safe for the elderly when used correctly.

Answered by: Teysha Richardson, BS, RPh, PharmD

Teen and College

Missy Sanchez CEP, LPC

Is it true that grades made in the ninth grade are not as important as the grades made in the junior and senior years?

No. Students need to be aware that their grades and coursework in grades 9-12 are considered in college admissions. An “A” made in the 9th grade counts the same amount as an “A” made in the 12th grade; conversely, a “D” made in the 9th grade counts the same amount as a “D” made in the 12th grade.  

Answered by: Missy Sanchez CEP, LPC

Senior Care

Where can I get information about services available to caregivers or their care recipient?

One good place to start is the Eldercare Locator, a nationwide service funded by the U.S. Administration on Aging. This service connects older Americans and their caregivers with information on senior services. You can access it online (http://eldercare.gov/) or by telephone (1-800-677-1116).

Answered by: Bill Benson

Senior Care

What do I do if I suspect the nursing home is neglecting my loved one?

You can call your local long-term care ombudsman. Every state is required by the Older Americans Act to have a state and local ombudsman program. Long-term care ombudsmen are advocates for residents of nursing homes, board and care homes and assisted living facilities. They are trained to resolve problems. Ombudsmen also can provide information about how to find a facility and what to do to get quality care.

Answered by: Bill Benson

Senior Care

Kate Zurich

What are 3 signs of caregiver burnout?

1) Short-temper, quick, sudden flares of anger, 2) Difficulty sleeping, either too much or too little, 3) Fatigue, that feeling of being tired all the time no matter how much sleep you have had.

Answered by: Kate Zurich