We have learned that it is in the best interest of all parties to have as few secrets as possible. In the past, many adoptions were "closed" and sometime children were not even aware that they were adopted. We know now that children who know as early as possible that they were adopted are emotionally more secure than those who find out later in life.
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Robin Fox is a mom of two children who were adopted. One of her daughters was born in Guatemala and her other daughter was adopted through a domestic (within the United States) adoption. Professionally, Robin has degrees in Early Childhood Education, Special Education, and Curriculum and Instruction. She is the chair of the Department of Curriculum and Instruction at the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater and has also been a teacher and director of a university childcare center as well as a Head Start teacher and director. Her areas of research include definitions of family, inclusion of "diverse" families within school settings and understanding gender as it relates to young children.
Robin Fox's Expert Answers
Two terms that are usually used in adoption are "open" and "closed" but defining these are difficult and there is much variance. An open adoption usually means that the birth family chooses the forever family. It may also mean that the birth family and the forever family meet prior to, during or even after the child is born. In some open adoptions the birth family and the forever family continue communication throughout the child's life.