Long Distance Parenting – Charting the Course

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By: BrownRichards & Associates

Navigating the waters of long distance parenting is a challenge for everyone involved, but there are ways to make it easier for you and your children.  By listening to your children, and following a few guidelines, you can create opportunities for happiness and satisfaction for all of you.

As hard as it may be, try to maintain a positive relationship with your children’s other parent.  Never let your child hear you say anything negative about the other parents, his/her family, or friends.  It isn’t ever fair to put children in the middle of adult problems.  This is the most important gift you can give to your children.

Let your children know that you miss them, but that you have an interesting life that goes on while you are separated from them.  Children, especially very young children, often feel guilty and worry about the far away parent being lonely.  Send a photo journal of your daily activities.  If may seem boring to you, but your children will be very interested in knowing these things and might even want to send you their own photo journals.

Remember that children feel loved if they have regular contact with both their parents.  Bu keeping regular contact with your children, you show them that you are thinking about them even when you are not with them.  Contact need not be complicated – a simple phone call or card will be enough, but it must be regular and it must be predictable.  Being a parent is about having a relationship with your child.  Good relationships take time and effort, so be prepared to commit both to your child.